NoSpankChallenge
Welcome to the 5th Annual Thank you for being here!
Event Flyer – PDF
Enjoy a discussion with Dr. Stephen Porges on
How to calm our children’s nervous system!
SPONSORS
”This was a very positive experience! I am a reformed spanker and my daughter is so much happier. Thank you!
”I appreciated having my ideas challenged with responses that are scientific. Knowing other people want to change and parent their children differently was encouraging!
”Thank you for the incredible inspiration that is helping me overcome my parenting issues!
”This is such an amazing series and literally has changed our household. Thank you!!
”I realized I’m not alone and that other parents struggle too. It helped me not be so hard on myself!
What can I expect?
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Links to articles and writings
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Free admission to live online workshops and discussions
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Live support and recordings
Topics
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How to guide children and set boundaries
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Increasing emotional intelligence
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Cultivating resilience
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Tools to deal with your own emotions
Why Should We Stop Spanking?
Research shows that spanking children can have harmful, adverse effects on child development. It not only teaches children to solve problems through violence, it is also related to:
- decreased internalization of morals
- decreased IQ
- increased aggression and antisocial behavior
- poor mental health outcomes, and
- greater likelihood of being in adult abusive relationships as both perpetrator and victim
Did You Know?
Hitting Children is Legal in Homes
- 30% of American parents spank their child before their first birthday.
- 50% of all toddlers are spanked 3x a week or more.
- Over 90% of all toddlers are spanked.
Spanking often leads to criminal child abuse
- Most physical child abuse begins with physical punishment.
- Parents who believe in spanking are 4-9 times more likely to abuse their children.
Hitting Children is Legal in Schools
- 19 states allow adults to hit children with boards in public schools despite the zero-tolerance policies on violence AND 48 states allow paddling in private schools.
- Each year 166,807 students are hit by public school faculty – and these only represent the reported accounts.
- Students of color and disabled students are hit by adults in schools at a disproportionate rate, indicating a need to look at the impact of trauma and systematic racism within our school system.
Better Alternatives!
Listening to Children eBooklet
This booklet will help you understand
- Common causes/triggers for “off-track” behavior
- Why kids crave connection and limits
- How to set effective limits
- Why conventional discipline doesn’t work for long
- How to handle your own emotional moments
What do you do when your child acts out? How do you tell a child “No” without triggering a power struggle? Parenting by Connection shows you how setting limits is actually a gift for your child. This booklet teaches you to:
- Set healthy boundaries
- Interact with both warmth and authority
- Create cooperation and closeness
A free 1-hour podcast with Robbyn Peters Bennett (StopSpanking.org) and Patty Wipfler (Hand in Hand) discussing sustainable alternatives to spanking.
ARTICLES on Spanking
- This Hurts Me More Than It Hurts You, Rebecca Eanes, Positive-Parents.Org
- Why Everything We Know About Discipline is Wrong, Dr. Shefali Tsabary
- How and Why Parents Stopped Spanking, Jennifer Andersen
- What’s the Problem with Spanking?, Hand In Hand Parenting
- Alternatives to Spanking, Rebecca Eanes
- Instead of Spanking, Jennifer McGrail
- Spanking: What Difference Does It Make?, Vicki Hoefl
- Dealing with Your Own Big Emotions About Spanking, Sheena Hill of Parenting Works
ARTICLES on Positive Parenting
- Getting Started on Your Gentle Journey, LR Knost, Little Hearts Books
- This Hurts Me More Than It Hurts You, Rebecca Eanes, Positive-Parents.Org
- 4 Tip for Handling Public Meltdowns, Lori Petro, TEACH Through Love
- 5 Heart-Centered Practices for Managing Anger, Lori Petro, TEACH Through Love
- What to Do when your Child Won’t Stop Hitting the Cat, Lori Petro, TEACH Through Love
- Managing Our Own Emotions, Colby Pearce
- A surprisingly Effective Alternative to Punishment, Claire Battersby
- What Is Your Anger Style, Robbyn Peters Bennett
- Work/Life Blend Checklist, Neca Smith
- And So We Try A Little Harder, Dare Ellis
- Gentle Parenting as a Journey Not a Destination, Abby Theuring
- Skirt the Struggle, Kindle the Connection: How to Unlock the Gifts of Resistance, Clémentine Malta-Bey
- What To Do When You Don’t Know What To Do, Andy Smithson of TRU Parenting
- Help for Homework Hassles, Tracy McConaghie
- Flower Babies. Leana Bowler
- Why Punishment is NOT Okay, Marwa Farouq
- What To Do After You Lose It, Sheena Hill
- Reducing Childhood Anxiety (https://parentingbeyondpunishment.com/reduce-childhood-anxiety/) by Jane Evans
- Teaching Kids to Manage Anger, Aggression & Fear (http://teaching-kids-to-manage-anger-aggression-and-fear/) by Ariadne Brill
- Of Astronomers and Astronauts: How to Empower Your Teens(https://parentingbeyondpunishment.com/empowering-teens/) by Dave Soleil
- Mindfulness for Kids (http://amyphoenix.com/mindfulness-for-children-exercises-for-emotional-regulation-focus/) by Amy Phoenix
- Listening & Limits (http://www.handinhandparenting.org/article/parent-education-listening-and-limits/) by Julianne Idleman of Hand in Hand Parenting
- 5 Things I Wish I’d Known When the Kids Were Small (https://parentingbeyondpunishment.com/fivethings) by Patricia Hope
- The Most Effective Skill to Help Parents Keep Their Cool by Andy Smithson https://parentingbeyondpunishment.com/keepyourcool
- Creating a Habit of Mindfulness When Angry by Amy Phoenix
http://habyts.com/creating-habit-mindfulness-angry/ - 5 Things Moms Need to Know About Meditation by Hunter Clarke-Fields https://parentingbeyondpunishment.com/moms-and-meditation/
- An Invitation to Feel What You Feel Fully and Safely by Amy Phoenix http://amyphoenix.com/feel-safely/
- Letting Go of the Way You Were Parented by Dr. Tiffanie Noonan
https://parentingbeyondpunishment.com/letting-go-of-the-way-you-were-parented - Parenting with Chronic Pain by Vicky P. Gilbert
https://parentingbeyondpunishment.com/parenting-with-chronic-pain/ - Peaceful Parenting for Single Moms by Amy Phoenix
http://amyphoenix.com/peaceful-parenting-single-moms/ - When Parenting is Lonely by Alison Smith
https://parentingbeyondpunishment.com/lonely-parenting/ - When Gentle Parenting Seems too Hard by Alison Smith
http://www.alisonsmithcoaching.com/wound-worn-gentle-parenting-seems-hard/ - Mindfulness: Establishing a Daily Sitting Practice by Amy Phoenix
http://amyphoenix.com/mindfulness-establishing-a-daily-sitting-practice/
VIDEOS
Are Permissive Parents Spoiling Kids
Alfie Kohn (30-min)
Spanking and the Brain
Martin Teicher, MD, PhD
Centers for Disease Control
Position on Violence & Spanking
FACTS about Spanking
(17-min)
Modeling Peaceful Conflict Resolution by Lori Petro, TEACH Through Love
(4-min)
Playful Ways to Teach Emotional Intelligence
Suzanne MacDonald Tucker (13-min)
Offload Anger Guilt & Frustration
Amy Bryant & Kathy Gordon (Hand-in-Hand)