Alternatives to Spanking
Is Spanking Really a Problem?
The Effect of Spanking on the Brain
Spanking and Family Violence
Join an Online Parenting Support Group!
These groups are closed to create safety and privacy and are moderated by facilitators committed to nonviolent parenting.
- Parenting Beyond Punishment Parent Support Group – Amy Bryant, EdS, LPC therapist and and Ashley Kagan, Med MECD, child development expert support parents in peaceful parenting.
- Collaborative Problem Solving – Dr. Ross Greene, author of “The Explosive Child” helps parents find better ways to work with difficult, oppositional children. Parents can join a closed facebook group of peaceful parents, called The B Team to find support for implementing collaborative problem solving.
- Hand in Hand Parenting Group – A parenting group provided by Hand in Hand Parenting. Learn more, connect with resources and other like-minded parents. We support parents when parenting gets hard!
- Conscious Parenting Time – Yolanda Williams and Crystal Stampley created a safe place for African American parents (only please!) to ask questions, seek advice, and share wins or frustrations. Conscious parenting asks us to explore our own triggers, mindset, and childhood, as well as to understand age-appropriate behaviors and mental capabilities of our children.
- Latina Parents Practicing NonViolence – Leslie Hillenbrand created an inclusive space for self-identifying Latinx parents and caregivers to gain community around nonviolent, conscious parenting practices and connect with like-minded people seeking to break intergenerational cycles of trauma and oppression for our Latinx or bicultural children. While there is an abundance of information available on positive parenting, our goal for this group and the spaces we, the co-founders of Latinx Parenting, hold is to provide these resources in a way that is consumable and relatable for the culture. This is a safe place for Latinx parents to ask questions, seek advice, and share celebrations and challenges. Parenting with nonviolence asks us to engage in reflection on our childhoods without shame, challenge our assumptions and thoughts about children, and understand brain development and historical and social impacts on our parenting.
What Works Better than Hitting?
Peaceful parenting is more effective. Peaceful parenting 1) keeps your long-term goals in mind, 2) emphasizes warmth and structure, and 3) considers how children think and feel.
How do I discipline my toddler?
Help me with my 3-year-old!
Some children are definitely more challenging!
Peaceful Parenting Webinar Series
Peaceful parenting is sometimes called gentle parenting, positive parenting, positive discipline or attachment parenting. The main theme of all these approaches is focusing on the health of the relationship between the child and the parent, and supporting the child’s developmental needs. Joan Durrant, PhD developed a peaceful parenting program called “positive discipline in everyday parenting.” Join our discussion panel of parenting specialists to discuss her book! The book is free online. Simply DOWNLOAD it.
LONG-TERM GOALS
PROVIDING WARMTH & STRUCTURE
Panelists: Amy Bryant, Robbyn Peters Bennett, Rachel Bailey, and Dr. Ross Greene.
Print pages 24 – 33 from the book, or print these Long-term Goals Worksheets
COLLABORATIVE PROACTIVE SOLUTIONS
Panelists: Kim Hopkins-Betts with LivesintheBalance.org, Amy, Rachel, Robbyn
PUTTING IT ALL TOGETHER!
Panelists: Amy, Rachel, Robbyn, and Kim
Great BOOKS
- The Whole Brain Child, Drs. Dan Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson
- Unconditional Parenting, Dr. Alfie Kohn
- The Explosive Child, Dr. Ross Greene
- Parenting with Patience, Judy Arnall
- How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk, Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish
- Healthy Baby Healthy Brain – Excellent Short Videos on Nurturing, Attachment
- Discipline without Distress, and Parenting with Patience, Judy Arnall
- 30 other Amazing Authors!
Facebook Pages
Excellent Websites
- Parenting Beyond Punishment provides practical resources and tools to help parents and families move beyond punishment. Here you will learn peaceful ways to guide your children as they learn important social and life skills, such as responsibility, compassio
n, critical thinking, conflict resolution, and respect for themselves and others. - Download a free copy of Positive Discipline in Everyday Parenting for yourself as a parent. If you are an educator, there are also free facilitator and training manuals for you to help parents.
- Webinar training by Attachment Parenting of Canada educator Judy Arnall. Judy helps you during the most important window of development, AGES 1 – 4.
- What Do I Do When My Child HITS Me? Dr. Laura Markham’s Advice
- 20 Alternatives to Spanking, Aletha Solter, Ph.D.
- 22 Alternatives to Spanking, Jan Hunt, Natural Child Project
- Instead of Spanking (Short & Simple One Page Handout)
- Crying Babies, How to Soothe Your Child, so She Can Soothe Herself and why the Cry It Out Method is potentially neurologically harmful to babies.
- 7 Strategies to Avoid Permissive Parenting, Dr. Laura Markham
- How To Help Your Child STOP HITTING, Dr. Laura Markham’s Advice
- Natural Parents Network, A community of natural-minded parents and parents-to-be where you will be informed, empowered, and inspired.
- Presence Parenting, Amy Phoenix offers resources to reduce shame and increase compassion, slowing down, diffusing anger and cultivating trusting relationships
- Attachment Parenting International incorporates the “golden rule” of parenting; parents should treat their children the way they would want to be treated. Positive discipline is an overarching philosophy that helps a child develop a conscience guided by his own internal discipline and compassion for others
Christian Resources
- Christians for Non-Violent Parenting
- Jesus, The Gentle Parent, L. R. Knost
- Thy Rod and Thy Staff They Comfort Me is a wonderful online book by Samuel Martin addressing the biblical argument on spanking – an interpretation of non-violence.
