Help for Pediatricians

A Pediatrician’s
Parenting for Resiliency Kit

The resources you need to support parents, yourself, and your practice to promote resiliency and end violence against children. This perspective…

  • focuses on building a healthy attachment between parent and child
  • emphasizes collaborative problem solving to build skills and address challenging behaviors
  • emphasizes the importance of self regulation for parents and their children

Violence is costly and destructive. Educating parents on the damaging effects of spanking is key to ending violence against children. We know that sharing the research on the harms of spanking helps reduce parents’ support of spanking. We also know that parents seek and trust the parenting advice of their pediatrician more than any other source, including friends and ministers.

We hope this kit will help you provide to parents the support they need. Please join us in the movement to end the hitting of children to create a more compassionate peaceful society.

Support for your Patients

More than information,
Parents need a Supportive Parenting Community

Who wants to feel judged? Parenting is hard enough! Online communities are a great way to join a group, learn as you go, and ask questions when you are ready.

Teach Parents about Adverse Childhood Experiences & Resiliency: This is a simple resiliency assessment for parents to help them identify the ways in which they are already resilient and the areas where they may need more support. This handout includes a free online webinar discussing resiliency.

Offer Parents Online Resources: This guide includes a doorway to online communities and resources that promote brain savvy parenting. Parents can…

  • Surf excellent parenting websites
  • Join a moderated Facebook parenting group to ask questions and get support from clinicians and other parents
  • Read from our suggested reading books list
  • Join a free webinar to ask questions
Support for you!

Does the research warrant making a clear statement against spanking?

Yes, the research is clear that spanking puts children at risk for increased aggression and a myriad of other problems. If you want a quick review, click the research link. The research is so compelling that the CDC now considers spanking a health risk (p. 18) and has made a formal statement against spanking calling for educational outreach and legislative action to end its practice. Research tells us that most pediatricians believe physical punishment is harmful, but worry they are in the minority. Rest assured. You are not in the minority.

Can spanking adversely impact brain development?

Martin Teicher, PhD, MD, Director Developmental Biopsychiatry Research Program, McClean Hospital, Assoc Professor of Psychiatry, Harvard Medical School, Chief of the Developmental Psychopharmacology Laboratory speaks about the effects of spanking on the developing brain.

What are some quick tips I can offer parents on how to respond to challenging behaviors?

The first step in addressing challenging behavior is to connect with the child. This helps the parent and child feel more regulated and more capable of solving the problem. You can help parents learn how to use connecting words. The saying, “connect and then redirect” is so true. Words are important. If you struggle to find helpful phrases that support parents in connecting with their children, check out Lori Petro’s “connecting words” page.  Print it out and post it on your office wall.


What should I do if a parent becomes aggressive with their child?

An angry parent can be intimidating, and our first impulse may be to disconnect and avoid the parent. The challenge is to find a way to connect with the parent in a way that feels comfortable. The Art of Intervening may offer you some guidance on how to connect with an overwhelmed parent who is losing control.

Support for your Clinic

Implement a “No Hit Zone”

Many hospitals and pediatric clinics have implemented a “No Hit Zone” policy to help maintain a calm, safe and caring environment for children, families and staff. Nearly 30 children’s hospitals nationwide, including Kosair Children’s Hospital and Children’s Mercy Hospital, have successfully implemented the “No Hit Zone.”  To learn more…

Update your website with a Positive Parenting campaign that targets ending physical punishment

Thankfully, most of the work is already done! Best Start of Canada launched a campaign to end corporal punishment. They studied the research on discipline and based upon the most current literature created an online program to educate parents. Most resources are free and can be uploaded to your website:

Provide resources for parents in the waiting room.

  • Post “connecting words” posters in the waiting rooms (TeachThroughLove has a ton of great examples)
  • Provide free videos on how to problem solve with children and address common behavioral challenges.

Share posts with us on the Alliance and StopSpanking Facebook pages

We post on positive parenting, the Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) study, discipline, and resiliency.