What Can I Do?

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You can help fund outreach, support us to present at child development conferences, and help us get the word out there.  Please donate now… and THANK YOU!

Join the US Alliance to End the Hitting of Children

MISSION:  Our members, individuals and organizations, believe children should be reared without being subjected to any form of corporal punishment (such as slapping, shaking, spanking, or hitting). Further, they should not be subjected to any form of emotional punishment, including shaming or demeaning. Any legal defense of these behaviors should be repealed to ensure that children have the same protection as adults under US laws.

Join the Alliance because:
  • A larger membership of the National Alliance means more strength,
  • Have greater access to research, education tools, model legislation, and
  • Learn from other’s work and ideas.

Help Ban Corporal Punishment in PUBLIC SCHOOLS in 19 States

1. Sign the change.org petition to support Bill HR 3027 to Ban Corporal Punishment at the Federal Level in our Public Schools.

Special thanks to the creative efforts of Jared Abrams, filmmaker and father who produced “The Board of Education,” an educational and disturbing look at sanctioned violence against children in our schools.

Protest Books that Promote Child Abuse

Jeff Bezos, Amazon CEO: Refuse to carry books which advocate the physical abuse of children!

Please sign this petition. A family just down the road in Bow, Washington are being tried for reportedly killing their adopted Ethiopian child using the “hitting with a rod” methods described in Pearls book “Train up a Child” It is like publishing a book on how to sexually abuse your child!

Stay Informed About the Convention on the Rights of the Child.children's rights

All members of the UN have ratified this treaty with the exception of Somalia and the United States.  Article 19 of the Convention protects children from all forms of violence.

Article 37 of the CRC requires states to ensure that “no child shall be subjected to torture or other cruel, inhuman or degrading treatment or punishment”; article 19 requires states to protect children “from all forms of physical or mental violence”. The Committee on the Rights of the Child – the monitoring body for the CRC – has repeatedly emphasized that this includes the prohibition and elimination of corporal punishment in all settings, including the home, most comprehensively in General Comment No. 8 (2006) on “The right of the child to protection from corporal punishment and other cruel or degrading forms of punishment (articles 19, 28(2) and 37, inter alia)”.

Convention on the Rights of the Child Booklet

5 Responses to What Can I Do?

  1. Ella says:

    This is so frustrating. As a parent, I feel like my hands are completely tied. It seems that no form of discipline is acceptable these days. Every possible method of teaching kids to behave has been labeled by somebody as “cruel and degrading.” And yet I’m still expected to make my kids behave. HOW, I would like to know!! Time-out is completely ineffective. I have a one-year-old, and when he wants to do something (like sit on his baby brother), he is bound and determined and will keep trying again and again and again. You can put him in time-out till the cows come home, but it makes no difference. If people want my kids to grow up as productive members of society, then I need a discipline method that WORKS. If you don’t like spanking, what then do you do instead??

    • Hi Ella,
      I have never found time-outs to be helpful either! Check out this link for on-line resources for mommies. http://stopspanking.org/resources/ Check out the Facebook sites. I live in Bellingham and am part of an Unconditional Parenting group and the women are wonderful. You can post problems and get help from mothers who are using non-punishing forms of discipline. It is like an on-line mother’s support group. Have you checked out AhaParenting.org? Dr. Markham is great! And don’t worry about people that are judging you and expecting your child to behave. Just find supportive mothers that understand and that can help! Best of luck to you.

  2. Marc says:

    Proactive approaches are best. Keep children’s minds and bodies engaged, stimulated, and active… and ensure they get the rest they need and the healthful nutrients they need!

    Boredom can breed less than pleasant behaviors… so take the pro-active approach! Also, the power of “Ignore & redirect” for little toddlers works wonders.

  3. shannonstoney says:

    I sometimes had to use time-out repeatedly. I set the timer for 20 minutes usually. When the timer goes off, the child can come out of time out. He learns pretty quick to stop doing whatever he should not be doing. It is labor intensive, but it works.

    • Hi Shannon,
      I’ve found that over the years I’ve moved completely away from using punishment. Not only does the research show that punishment damages the attachment between parent and child, but also it does not create long term compliance and diminishes intrinsic motivation in children (adults too!) Have you checked out Dr. Laura Markham’s site? She wrote an interested article about time out. http://www.ahaparenting.com/parenting-tools/positive-discipline/timeouts

      Also, I would highly recommend Drs. Dan Siegel and Tina Bryson’s book “No Drama Discipline,” which offers much more effective, neurobiologically sensitive ways to work with children. Best wishes to you and your family. So happy that you have rejected spanking and are looking for better ways!

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