Search for:

Home
What To Do Instead!
RESEARCH
Professional Training
- Past Training
- Upcoming Training
  - Prevent Abuse Virtual Conference
Store
- Helper Cards

Home
What To Do Instead!
RESEARCH
Professional Training
- Past Training
- Upcoming Training
  - Prevent Abuse Virtual Conference
Store
- Helper Cards

What is your ACE Score? Lower Your Child’s.

What is your ACE Score? Lower Your Child’s.

Posted on May 16, 2013

in Uncategorized

More about the ACE Study

No Comments

Post a Comment

This is such an interesting article. One thing that catches my attention is how regulated the parents are and the way in which a more regulated nervous system is supportive to the child. Modeling behavior and allowing children to use their own curiosity to come into relationship with us and participate in life with us as a certain genius into it. It doesn't surprise me that the executive functioning of children is higher when they are treated this way, because they are not constantly feeling reactive to directions and the reactivity of the parent and so their brain has much more time to come online and learn and grow and to develop empathy and a feeling of cooperation. ... See MoreSee Less

6 hours ago ·

View on Facebook

· Share

Share on Facebook Share on Twitter Share on Linked In Share by Email

⁠"Children don't choose to meltdown - in the same way that YOU or I would NEVER choose to have a meltdown, especially not in front of our family, colleagues, or friends! Meltdowns just happen.Our brains reach a threshold of tolerance and become overwhelmed. Give our children the same thing we need in moments like these - to be offered compassion without judgment. Not punishment, fear, or shame." -Amy Bryant, LPC, Eds ⁠⁠Ok, meltdowns are hard to deal with as parents. It can wear on our nervous system and drain our patience. ⁠What if we could lessen the frequency of meltdowns that our children experience? 💡 😃⁠⁠Listen in on our discussion on WHY children meltdown and what you can do to prevent it. ⁠⁠If this conversation, Amy and I will help you:⁠⁠👉 Understand the build-up of reactivity throughout the day⁠👉 Practice 3 core elements of parenting⁠👉 Build-in emotionally regulating experiences⁠👉 Recognize states of nervous system arousal⁠👉 Engage children in ways that meet their needs⁠Visit our website to take this free course and access a deep dive into Tantrums here: https://stopspanking.org/nip/tantrums/ ⁠💛⁠ ... See MoreSee Less

2 days ago ·

View on Facebook

· Share

Share on Facebook Share on Twitter Share on Linked In Share by Email

Yes! <3 ... See MoreSee Less

3 days ago ·

View on Facebook

· Share

Share on Facebook Share on Twitter Share on Linked In Share by Email

This is such an interesting article. I don't necessarily agree with all of the interpretations of the author, however I find some of the immediate behaviors of the Inuit parents and others incredibly informative. Like the idea of picking up a toddler who then scratches you after pulling the dog's tail, and grimacing which would be natural response, stating that we don't do that, and then spinning the child and putting him down somewhere else... Amazing. I see this as redirecting the child and also giving the child a strong proprioceptive experience and a very simple message that "we don't do this." It allows the child to get regulated (spinning the child can be very regulating as a proprioceptive input) and supports him to take in the message more effectively and the bond between the grandmother and the child has not been compromised. Just beautiful!One of the prevailing themes of the traditions here is the practice of co-regulation. Praise can actually upregulate a child because it's a form of judgment. It's a positive judgment, but it can set up in the child to feel the need to again do something in order to get that relational reward. What I'm reading here is a tendency to simply live together and enjoy each other which creates consistent and regular relational reward between the adult and the child. In our culture, we are very active and often move towards doing, a tendency that can be described as "left brained." If we move more toward a sense of beingness and mutual enjoyment, then there's a rich environment of relational reward and that has a powerful effect on helping a child become regulated. We are wired to connect and be cooperative, but if a child is dysregulated, it is much harder to access that ability. ... See MoreSee Less

4 days ago ·

View on Facebook

· Share

Share on Facebook Share on Twitter Share on Linked In Share by Email

Spanking is perceived by the brain as a threat and can create a toxic stress response. Toxic stress is serious. It can cause a negative cascading effect on brain development resulting in enduring harm to the child.⁠⁠Spanking can have a cascading negative effect on sensory processing, speech, motor control, emotional control, memory, and IQ. ⁠⁠61 countries have banned spanking in the home. We are a million voices committed to ending spanking in the United States. ⁠⁠For more information and to access our downloadable pdf of this research, please visit https://stopspanking.org/spanking-harms-the-brain/💚 ... See MoreSee Less

4 days ago ·

View on Facebook

· Share

Share on Facebook Share on Twitter Share on Linked In Share by Email

© 2021 Hands Are For Holding | StopSpanking.org