Alternatives to Spanking

Screen Shot 2015-02-12 at 4.48.38 PMYou can download a free copy of Positive Discipline in Everyday Parenting for yourself as a parent.  If you are an educator, there are also free facilitator and training manuals for you to help parents.

If you’re ready to stop spanking, yelling or using other punitive techniques with your child, if you’re struggling to discipline your children peacefully, or simply want to take your parenting journey deeper, you are in the right place!

Parenting Beyond Punishment collaborated with over 25 peaceful, gentle parenting experts to create a FREE webseries aimed to empower you with real-life tools so you can guide your children and set boundaries without being punitive.

Click here to receive all the podcasts, articles, and videos to help guide you as you learn such things as…

  1. Screen Shot 2014-03-07 at 4.24.02 PMIdentifying your triggers and releasing anger

  2. Self-regulation

  3. Setting limits

Gentle parenting is a journey.  We welcome you to go along on the journey with us!




Excellent Websites

Parenting Beyond Punishment

Personal Testimonials from Mothers who Stopped Spanking

The Single-Crunch “I used to hit my children

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How do we raise our children to be non-violent in a world that is filled with violence?  An excellent essay on the connection between early trauma, problems with attachment and the origins of violence.


On-Line Consultation

  1. Collaborative Problem Solving  – Dr. Ross Greene, author of “The Explosive Child” helps parents find better ways to work with difficult, oppositional children.  Dr. Greene has a weekly blog radio show that parents can call in or email to ask parenting questions.

  2. SHEENA HILL with Parenting Works can help you with parenting questions at Parenting Works


Excellent Facebook Sites!

Screen Shot 2013-12-17 at 8.19.15 AMRecommended BOOKS On What To Do INSTEAD – Positive Discipline

  • Out of Control, Dr. Shefali Tsabaray

  • The Whole Brain Child, Dr. Dan Siegel

  • Parenting from the Inside Out, Dr. Dan Siegel

  • Unconditional Parenting, Dr. Alfie Kohn

  • The Explosive Child, Dr. Ross Greene

  • How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk, Adele Faber & Elaine MazlishParenting with Patience

  • Healthy Baby Healthy Brain – Excellent Short Videos on Nurturing, Attachment

  • Best Start – Online Videos to that model how to intervene with little children without punishment, spanking, or rewards. Focuses on age appropriate discipline.

  • Discipline without Distress, and Parenting with Patience, Judy Arnall

  • Check out 30 other Amazing Authors!


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On-Line InChildren's Hospital Logoteractive Tutorial

Children’s Hospital at Vanderbilt has created a helpful, interactive, online application, “How to Deal with Your Toddler’s Aggression”  Try this program on-line.  It runs through a variety of common situations where a toddler is being oppositional and difficult and allows you to pick the answer you like best.  Then it offers research describing which result is the most effective!

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Parent Self-Regulation (Self Care)

It is so important for us to take good care of ourselves as parents! Here are some links to sites focusing on self care:

If we want to help our children when they are upset, tantrumming, or jumping off the walls, we need to keep our cool!  When our children are not cooperating, or whining, or flipping out, it is easy for us to feel the same way.  The challenge is to remain calm and connected to our children.  That is difficult when we start to feel angry.  Dr. Efron teaches us how to identify our anger style so we can let go of anger and stay connected to our kids.

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Check out Dr. Dan Siegel’s Facebook focusing on how to practice mindfulness in our lives and with our children.  Dr. Siegel is a neuroscientist who studies how we can help regulate our own brains and our children’s to reduce stress and conflict and increase mutual enjoyment between parents and children.  Dr. Dan Siegel – MINDFULNESS

The Neuro-Science of Early Childhood

This is a wonderful website that demonstrates how a child’s brain develops and how to enrich a child’s development through safe, stable, and consistent relationship between the child and caregiver.

Harvard University – On the Developing Child is an excellent resource to learn what science is teaching us about the importance of early life experience on long term health into adulthood.

CLICK HERE for the Research on SPANKING

Books About the Effects Spanking

  • PAMPHLET: Plain Talk about SPANKING – An online pamphlet challenging the cultural beliefs that reinforce spanking.
  • This Hurts Me More Than It Hurts You, Nadine Block writes about the child’s perspective of spanking illustrated using the child’s drawings.
  • Asadah Kirland, author of “Beating Black Kids” writes about how to raise our skills and not our hands.
  • Why Spanking Doesn’t Work, Michael J. Marshall, PhD

Community Action Links

Why Abolish Spanking?

The European Council talks about why many European countries have banned spanking in the home.

Center for Effective Discipline is an organization aimed at helping parents find alternatives to spanking, promoting positive discipline.  This is also a great resource for learning how to change school policies to ban the hitting of children in schools.

Global Initiative to End All Corporal Punishment – Learn about the world-wide effort to ban all forms of violence against children, including spanking in the home.

United Nations Convention on the Child Rights of Child –  Efforts by the UN to protect children’s rights, including to be free from all forms of violence including corporal punishment.

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