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A Pediatrician’s

Peaceful Parenting Resource

Peaceful Parenting…

  • supports a healthy bond between parent and child
  • teaches collaborative problem solving to build skills and solve problems
  • builds self regulation in children
Sharing the research on the harms of spanking helps reduce parents’ support of spanking. Research tells us, parents seek and trust parenting advice from their pediatrician the most!
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Need an Easy Way to Share the Harms of Spanking?

Simply hand parents a helper card!

These cards link to online resources so parents can…
  • Surf excellent parenting websites
  • Join a LIVE Facebook parenting support groups
  • Watch a free webinar on peaceful parenting

Parents can scan the QR Code on the Helper Cards with their phone.

Click this code to see the parenting page that will appear on their phone!
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The helper cards help you respond to the recent policy statement issued by the AAP that considers spanking the most prevalent risk for child abuse and urges pediatricians to educate parents on healthier and safer alternatives!
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Does the research warrant making a clear statement against spanking?

Yes, the research is clear that spanking puts children at risk for increased aggression and a myriad of other problems. If you want a quick review, click the RESEARCH LINK. The research is so compelling that the CDC now considers spanking a health risk (p. 18) and has made a formal statement against spanking calling for educational outreach and legislative action to end its practice. Research tells us that most pediatricians believe physical punishment is harmful, but worry they are in the minority. Rest assured. You are not in the minority.

Can Spanking adversely impact brain development? YES.

Martin Teicher, PhD, MD, Director Developmental Biopsychiatry Research Program, McClean Hospital, Assoc Professor of Psychiatry, Harvard Medical School, Chief of the Developmental Psychopharmacology Laboratory speaks about the effects of spanking on the developing brain.

Do you need quick tips to offer parents?

The first step in addressing challenging behavior is to connect with the child. This helps the parent and child feel more regulated and more capable of solving the problem. You can help parents learn how to use connecting words. The saying, “connect and then redirect” is so true. Words are important. If you struggle to find helpful phrases that support parents in connecting with their children, check out Lori Petro’s “connecting words” page.  Print it out and post it on your office wall.

Here’s resources for Your Waiting Room!

  • Post “connecting words” posters in the waiting rooms (TeachThroughLove has a ton of great examples)
  • Provide free videos on how to problem solve with children and address common behavioral challenges.

What should I do if a parent becomes aggressive with their child?

An angry parent can be intimidating, and our first impulse may be to disconnect and avoid the parent. The challenge is to find a way to connect with the parent in a way that feels comfortable. The Art of Intervening may offer you some guidance on how to connect with an overwhelmed parent who is losing control.
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Implement a “No Hit Zone”

Many hospitals and pediatric clinics have implemented a “No Hit Zone” policy to help maintain a calm, safe and caring environment for children, families and staff. Nearly 30 children’s hospitals nationwide, including Kosair Children’s Hospital and Children’s Mercy Hospital, have successfully implemented the “No Hit Zone.”  To learn more…